Saturday, December 23, 2006

Something that reminds me of the challeges of being a gay youth...

This song reminds me of when I was a teenager, having a crush on this guy in my classes...not understanding my sexuality, only know I wanted him to be my boyfriend!!!!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=qClpocU47jo

Friday, December 22, 2006

Celebrity racist....

Rosie was once my favourite celebrity lesbian....until she revealed her racism toward the entire Asian community...way to go Rosie...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=bV_c-auOnTU

And as for Kramer I didn't like his ass anyways...he is not funny and i guess I'm sorry a Black man had to be the person to enlighten him to that...everyone else was lying to his ass!!!!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=jgv_h3QYA-8

Career choices....

So I am at that stage in my life where everything should be exciting, being in university and studying for a career should be what my life is about at this stage. To some extent, that's where I'm at, I'm currently in university for social work, if i don't screw up i should graduate next June with a social work degree... great accomplishment, the family is happy as I am the first to graduate from university. however, I don't care about social work, I will probably never be a social worker (the field scares me!!), I'm currently applying to go to grad school for a masters in politics.

When I reflect, I didn't start university undecided, I consciously decided that I was going to study social work then go to law school. People who knew me from high school continue to ask me about my law school aspirations as they knew that was the only career I was interested in at that time. I don't think I am still interested in law as a career. In fact politics don't top my list of possible career choices either.

So I am at that point where nothing I studied intensely interest me, maybe I can teach!!!! o no, I wouldn't want to do that, because i currently work with youth and I am not$ interested in the amount of stress i have to endure to get them to do work. Maybe I can become a policy analyst, who knows, maybe that's what I will do, maybe I will teach at a college or university, that again, is a career that I may do, maybe I will change my mind and go to law school after I receive my masters, again, who knows!!!!

The point is i don't know what I want to do, I don't know what I want to do as a career because I don't think I spent the time to get to know myself. For most of my life I was busy making other people happy and didn't realise I needed to take the time to get to know who I am. What I do know is that whatever career I choose it aught not to feel like work. In order for me to be successful in my career it must be so personally rewarding that I don't see it as work,. I must see it as just another day doing something that I deeply love.

Another reason it hardly matters what career choice I make is that I am almost sure that the years I spent in university will give me some power over those who have not spent that time learning the same shit over and over again and I am interested in sharing power with those people or advocating for those people. I don't know where those interests will lead me but hey, I'm young, I just want something that will be personally rewarding to me-to the point where i don't think of work as work and where I can advocate for and with people....hey research and policy analyst sounds good, so does law....maybe I can become a criminal prosecutor.

MAYBE I SHOULD SPEND SOME TIME GETTING TO KNOW WHO I AM!!! Without spending that time with myself; in my own personality and in my own personal interests, i will not know what career to choose. God forbid I turn out like Lyn on "girlfriends" who has degrees and not knowing what to do with any of them!!!

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Anger and Jealousy

OK...so I haven't updated my blog in a while because I couldn't figure out how to log in (only I had to do something like that, but I figured it out and now I am back.

Well its been a good week so far...I did a few presentations on sex and sexuality to a group of mostly African-Canadian youth and enjoyed it.

I am sitting here after having an argument with a close friend of mine about the nature of jealousy and anger. To me they are natural emotions that we all exert at one time or another. It is up to us as individuals to decide how we will use those emotions. I also believe that anger can be a very useful emotion, thought out our history in the west peoples of African decent have used our anger as a motivation to challenge slavery and oppression. When you listen to the speeches of people like Dr. King, Malcolm X or Angela Davis you see how they took their anger and used it to challenge the ways in which people of African decent are treated in western society. The music of people like Billie Holyday, Jill Scott-Heron and the great Nina Simone also use anger to encourage descendants of people who were brutally enslaved to fight against a system that continued to see them as second class citizens in so called free societies. The works of these people transcend borders and created Pan-African movements all through tout the Western hemisphere. This is the power of the simple emotion we call anger.

In that same token, gay and lesbian peoples have used their anger to upset the order of society which straight people have dictated to us. It is the anger of gay and lesbian activist men and women who created spaces for people like me to attend when I was a teenager and didn't understand my sexuality in this hostile world.

So I am fine with the constructive use of anger, sadly though, I don't believe most people know how to use their anger to change the systems which acts as barriers to their own happiness and prosperity. Many use anger as a way to get back at the person who fucked with them, like taking a gun and shooting someone who 'dissed' them- this is anger used in an unproductive way.

Jealousy is another emotion that can be used in a productive way. Someone once told me that her partner gets jealous easily if she is talking to someone else and she asked me if that means her partner have a undying love for her. My answer was NO.

Yes, this is jealousy but this is jealousy used to control others, her partner don't own her, she is not his little toy which he doesn't want no one else to play with, so that type of jealousy in no way equals love. However, If I look at someone having a beautiful home on the beach front and I look at that and something in me say, I wish I was that person, I wish i owned that home on the beach... this type of jealousy can be constructive if I take the steps needed to own a similar house on the beach front. As far as I see, there is nothing wrong with that type and use of jealousy, I mean we use that type of emotion almost everyday, we may not recognise it but its something that has helped us all to achieve our goals.

So there is nothing wrong with being angry or being jealous, but the way we use them makes a world of difference.

Sunday, December 17, 2006

My first blog...

I chose to test out this blogging thing after reading quite a few and realzing I have a lot to say... Stay tuned for my ideas...from global warming (December 17, 2006 in Toronto it is 13 C), to Canadian and world politics, my gay identity, Mumia Abu Jamal, peace among and culture of Africans and those in the disapora.

I will post some of my ideas tomorrow, it maybe shocking to some, maybe comforting to others who didnt know people like yourselves actually exist!!! In the mean time..Question all you have learned. Question those who you have learned from, cause only in the questions will find the reason we learn what is taught.


Tek Kare